So BOOM-yall know I'm an early bird and EVERY Saturday I look forward to my Sip Trips. I honestly never thought I'd be such an early riser AND enjoy it but seeing how it's tranformed my life with extending the days; it's moved from being a habit to...that's just my natural ways. The older I get, the more I want to be intentional with my time as I'm already Picky with My Presence ;) with that being said...the way to my heart is a Coffee Date!
5 Surprising Reasons
You Should Make Coffee Dates Your New Go-To
If you recall Sparkle (2012) I remember the scene when Jordan Spark's sister was found drugged up in the closet before a big meeting with an executive and he mentioned he purposely wanted the meeting early to see the group "in the light of day". That stuck with me! It's easy for us to be our best selves as the day has gotten started but I wanna catch you EARLY so I can observe how u are at the top of the morning. I don't expect everyone to be as "chipper" or fancily dressed as iiiiii before 0900a, however, there's something special to see how someone makes the EFFORT to spend their morning with me and I appreciate the time.
Speaking of time...I wanna capture you at the start of your day and set the tone by sharing my sparkle with you. Why not share my energy with persons of interest as I capture your attention for a few hours and leave you with a lingering impression to harken back to later on. I want you fresh out the bed, lol. These dates can be short (I like em as teasers) and if you have no plans thereafter; they can stretch to a leisurely stroll-THREE HOURS MAX of my time-DASSIT!! I have a life, lol.
Ok all jokes aside, yall heaux came for my neck when I mentioned "cheap" and/or coffee dates as first dates. For ME, I like the low pressure and less investment of cheap dates; if he's creative enuff it can even be FREE-matters to me not. Why? I want the intro to be comfortable and less formal so we are both at ease and less anxious. We are strangers and $400 dinner dates don't impress me becuz I wanna see if we can HAVE a conversation that'll lead to another one....and another one...and...well yea; keep it simple with me.
When you are in relaxed enviornments, its easier for people to open up. I want you to be yourself; it's just me. A lot of times, guys will go off their perceptions of me based on my online presence or however they've met me but I'm such an onion, lol. Your first encounter with me is merely surface level. During coffee dates, your in MY world. The settin is simple enough to where I can intentively pay attention to you and build connections through FOCUSED conversations n no distractions. How well can you hold the convo? Am I finding myself carrying the convo? Do you have a sense of humor? and how much can I share without oversharing? You'd be surprised how intimate it can get during coffee dates. They'll ramble n pause with "I don't even know why I'm telling you this" lol. I get that alllll the time and I love it. I am a safe space to shaaaare ;)
The chance for chemistry and connection is the ultimate reason I opt for coffee. I can gauge you better with less distraction and and we can enjoy each other's presence. I don't feel obligated to take anything serious and I'm not press to impress. I love deep conversations and ways to tap into your brain to make u think outside of ur normal-ness (that's the Aquarian in me). I can tell the difference in a person's energy in different settings and I capture them best for an honest conversation over coffee sips.
And there you have it...the beauty in coffee dates! Granted nobody said u gotta be there when the doors open at 0600a. I typically compromise and make it a decent hour no later than 1000a to be considerate of non-early birds. These dates aren't just for prospects. I like using it for catch up with friends n nem. I often leave with knowing I have plenty of time to continue the day and run errands or get back home before sunsets. The top of the morning is fresh and more engaging than after the day has beaten u up and now u gotta muster a 2nd dose of energy to entertain me for dinner. NAH!! Try them out and let me know what you think.
I will definitely have to do this for sure. I like this perspective. Plus, I don’t even like being out late that anymore.
Great read & on time for me! Had my 1st ever coffee date (no coffee-he had tea, I had apple cider) on Christmas Eve…it was afternoon, but still a great 2 hours spent. We laughed & talked and we shared; He definitely hit #4, “I don’t even know why I’m telling you all this…” we laughed & he kept sharing-we both did well at sharing without over sharing-it’s refreshing. Even though we were strangers, having just met 2 days prior, we both felt at ease just talking, in public, during the day (I even wore my glasses, lol)